Another Random Dozen...
2. Choose either subject, but does your a) church b) job feel more like a dental chair experience or an easy chair (recliner) experience? Church is most certainly an easy chair experience! It is warm and snuggly and comfortable! I love being there. I love my pastor and his wife, I love all the regulars, and I love Bible study with them! I am never NOT uplifted by being at church! But I also enjoy visiting other church's when I'm away! It's always good to see how other's do things!
3. Kisses or hugs? I actually typed "huts," which might have been a more interesting question. I'm a hugger! But I'll take a "hut" too ... 'specially if it's on a beach...
4. What do you think is the biggest threat to families today? Oh wow... this one's deep! I'm going to go with selfishness. Our society is very "me" oriented and it effects life on so many levels. But failure to look at life from the other person's perspective, failure to see need and act upon it, and failure to teach our children to share not just their "things", but their time and their talents - and to do so ourselves. It threatens our families - parents selfish with their time? Children selfish with their "things" and especially in their desire for MORE things! It threatens our marriages ... MY way or the highway? And it threatens our world. Me, me, me first! God doesn't want us to look out for ourselves. He will do that. He wants us to look out for others. If everyone were looking out for the "other guy"... then instead of just ME looking out for Number One, there would be 10 or 20 people looking out for ME while I was busy looking out for THEM. Wouldn't that make life easier on ALL counts?
5. A day after you grocery shop, you open a perishable item that is horribly spoiled. Do you take your receipt back to the store to be reimbursed or just throw it away and forget about it? I'm really bad about this. There is NO way I'm going all the way back to the grocery store to return the item and get another one. However... life was not always like that! Back in my poor days when I was pinchin' every penny, I would have taken it back - and probably gotten a refund AND a new one!
6. What personality trait (feel free to address good or bad or both) do you notice yourself adopting from your parents? Oh boy... on this, I have NO idea. I've spent my entire life trying sO hard not to be like either one of them... and I removed myself from them way early... if I have any of their traits it would be from my mother... but I don't notice any. My eldest daughter might notice... now you've got me curious... I'll have to ask her!
**Edited much later in the day** ... Barbara reminded me that I am a giver. And my mother was a giver! She LOVED to give gifts, and spent way too much money doing it! And that is me to a tee! The other thing that I MUST have gotten from her -- and my daughter's have both gotten it too - is our LOVE to eat out! My mother would have eaten in a restaurant every night of her life if she could afford it. She couldn't. But she would have! And so would I!
7. How many slices of bread do you leave in the bottom of the bag when you throw it away? Two? Three? Just the heel? None? (I really want to know if you eat the heel.) I do not eat the heal. And how many pieces are left depends upon how quickly the loaf gets eaten. If the bread has gotten STALE or moldy - then it might be half a loaf that gets tossed! But usually it's just the heal!
8. What mispronunciation or usage error really irritates you? LOL! I am so over all that! My eldest daughter is so full of malopropisms that I couldn't even begin to list them! I figure if she hasn't gotten it by 32 she's probably gonna be this way for life! Now I just LAUGH. I get much more irritated by mistakes in the written word... and though I am occasionally guilty of them myself - especially while blogging - mixing up the "there's" or the "to's" or then and than really drive me nuts!
9. In honor of the uniqueness of today's date, what does the numeral 9 mean to you? (Any special life moments attached to the 9th? Are you the 9th kid in your family? Can you count by 9s really fast? etc.) Well, now that you mention it, I am the 9th member of my family. (that includes my parents) But mostly 9 has just always been my birth month. It is pretty easy to count by too... (thanks for all those tips!)
10. Does the general color palette in your closet match the colors you chose to decorate your home with? Ummmm.... no/yes. Have you seen my closet? There is every color of the rainbow in there! There might be some colors that even the rainbow doesn't know about!!! But... Have you seen my house??? LOL! Most of the rooms these days are done in sandy earth/beach tones... but my kitchen is almost neon yellow with a blue ceiling! And a mermaid on the wall... I am definitely not more drawn to one set of colors. God made a bunch of 'em and I appreciate them all!
11. When you're hanging out with friends in the kitchen, do you automatically ask to help, or do you sit there and chat until the host asks if you'd like to help? I'm not implying that the 2nd choice stems from rudeness or laziness, just not a first-response like it is for some people. Usually I ask if I can help as soon as I come in, OR if the "doing" hasn't started yet, I'll ask when it does. Sometimes help isn't needed (or wanted) right away, so I'm content to wait until asked too. And then there's times when I just "do" without asking... ya know... it just depends!
12. Let's end on a pleasant note: What do you enjoy about September the most? Well, September is home to MY birthday and my twins' birthday, so that's always fun. It's also considered the month when summer cools down and autumn sneaks in... but that hasn't been so in the past 10 years. However, THIS year I think it just might be again - and that's kind of nice ... though I don't like giving summer up! But if we DO, indeed, get a real autumn, then that's rather nice.
Labels: Random Dozen
posted by Melli at
8:01 AM
17 comment(s):
Great answers, Melli. I have to say that I agree with you on the shame issue. I know people could misconstrue us, but I know exactly what you're talking about.
And whoa! You need to post a pic of that kitchen!
Thanks for participating.
By
2nd Cup of Coffee, at
9/09/2009 10:05 AM
Oh, I forgot she was going to do this again. I was going to work on a book review today -- have to decide whether to do that and do this tomorrow or vice versa.
I agree about shame. I think in the past generation it was over-used, but I have known parents who were so concerned about not inducing shame that they rarely made their child face up to something he had done wrong -- and because he never had to deal with the guilt and his actions were excused away, he never learned and expected the rest of the world to follow suit. They moved away and he is in his 20s now and I wonder how he turned out.
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Barbara H., at
9/09/2009 10:06 AM
*lots of head nodding in agreement*
I think we need a picture of your kitchen!
Ella has a busy weekend, starting tomorrow. I hope she doesn't oversleep in the morning and miss her ride to Bible study! She napped much of the day yesterday in the quiet house and then bounced about last night, wondering why no one was awake to play with her, LOL
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Anonymous, at
9/09/2009 11:30 AM
Adults who give wise advices about children have forgotten that they were babies and children too. Nobody came into this world as an adult. Stupid woman.
I don't like the coming up automn at all ! I would rase retreat in a hole during the whole winter season ! I don't think that your n° 4 will work. It's in most of the peoples nature to think first about themselves. Like in animal world ! Excepts the moms !
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Ingrid, at
9/09/2009 11:41 AM
I had another little peak into your kitchen Melli, and it looks even prettier than I remember it!
Loved reading your answers!
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Jientje, at
9/09/2009 11:48 AM
OK, I did do this one.
Which of us stupid women is Gattina referring to?!?!? I agree that babies come into the world as babies and not adults, but they come to parents in order to be trained along the way as well as loved.
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Barbara H., at
9/09/2009 11:56 AM
Great answers!! I love what you wrote about shame. I agree!!
By
T, at
9/09/2009 12:11 PM
Okay my Darlin' I'm clueless on malopropisms but I can just imagine what you think at my place and in my stories LOL. I love the heal on bread. No wonder I'm the way I am LOL. Loved this :) Get's such a good insight into you :)
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Anonymous, at
9/09/2009 12:55 PM
Yeah, I can read this today! Yesterday's is still showing wingdings for me. I asked my hubby and he says some code is embedded and it's showing up that way on my end. It was on the very beginning of one of yours last week at the top of a post that I ignored. Who knows!
Great answers to the meme!
I love the heels of the bread - especially if it's Italian - toasted and buttered!!!!
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Carletta, at
9/09/2009 1:02 PM
I am definitely with you on the shame issue. I learned some of my most important lessons because I felt ashamed. How can one learn right and wrong in regard to their actions?
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Maribeth, at
9/09/2009 3:40 PM
You throw away the heel. You rich folk do that. That was supposed to be eaten you know.
I don't care what other people do but I hate there, their and to, two, too and all those stupid words that sound just like the others and get me so confused. So their or so there.
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Dr.John, at
9/09/2009 5:36 PM
#1 - I totally agree! I do not use the word "shame" because so many parents flip over it, but I have definitely been known to ask a child, "How would you feel if someone did that to you?" Helping a child understand we all share the same basic feelings is crucial to developing that child's humanity.
#3 - I don't think you'd care for the huts on our beaches. (Although I do think you'd care about them!)
#8 - yeah, you've corrected me a time or two, too!
#12 - we will miss Autumn this year, but next year I will see it again! The last time I saw autumn was 1996!
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Quilly, at
9/09/2009 6:41 PM
I played today too! I did it cause I want to be like you when I grow up! Seriously, I loved your answers last week and I love Linda, so I played. I hear you about the shame thing. One of the movies I watched several years ago talking about kids and behaviors was called, "Children without a conscience". I gotta' tell you that scares me. There are children out there who have never known shame and basically remain so neutral on stuff that they can become very scary.
You know I love hearing about your church journey and it's been fun seeing you settle into your easy chair!
Much Love,
Susan
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Susan, at
9/09/2009 7:07 PM
I loved reading your answers. I learned some things about you.
I so TOTALLY agree with you about the shame thing. I don't think children should be berated or 'shamed' in front of the whole class but I do think they should feel enough shame to know they have done something wrong. I am afraid we are raising a generation of individuals who believe they can do NO wrong.
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Jane, at
9/10/2009 7:01 AM
What an interesting set of questions... I was interested in your first response. I grew up with what I call toxic shame. We ate, drank and breathed shame in my house so the word triggers a huge reaction in me. That said, I agree that we need to teach children values. I guess I just wouldn't call it shame, though I think the healthy shame you are talking about is a good thing.
I'm so with you on the prevalent failure to distinguish between "there" and "their," "then" and "than" and a host of other words. I visit (ugh) "go supermodel" with my young neighbor and the spelling and grammar are just scary bad.
Oh - and belated Happy Birthday!!!
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Raven, at
9/10/2009 10:32 AM
Wow, another September b-day!! There are at least three participating that have a Sept. b-day. not me I'm March but my mom and best friend!! :-)
Happy Birthday this month!!!
I'm new to your site and I love the title! I often sing, All I want for Christmas is a padded room!! still have all my teeth.
chel
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Chel, at
9/10/2009 5:54 PM
I'm a giver too. When I'm out shopping and I see a little something that brings someone to mind I get it for them. Its funny how people react when you just give things to them with out a birthday or holiday.
I agree about self esteem. Its totally opposite nowadays from what the bible teaches. Shame on us!
Great answers
By
Becky, at
9/11/2009 5:49 PM
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